"How do I love thee?" It seems this has become a loaded question in today's world. Loving someone, finding a soulmate, living and loving all that life has to offer, is a large part of the human experience. Why, in the 21st century, does this seem like a near impossibility? Why is it wrong in the eyes of so many to "love the one you're with?" Why do those same people feel justified in telling others how to live their lives, how to seek fulfillment, and how to love?
Finding the mate of your dreams is difficult at best. Sifting through all the possibilities can, and often is, a drain on the soul. The euphoric highs of meeting someone who may be the one to sweep you right off your feet, or at the low point let you fall on your ass, are what memories are made of. The first time you make love to a partner, the excitement of learning their body intimately, it's difficult to find anything more pleasurable to a person. With enough experience, and not just sexual experience but life experience, one develops a sense of who may or may not be a real candidate for a life partner.
Hopefully, intimacy grows and develops and links us to our real soul mate, the one to live and love, share, and be with.
In today's America, a stigma has been placed on relationships that some consider outside the realms of "normal" human sexuality and true intimate love. In today's society, it can seem a near impossibility to search for true love much less know what to do with it if is found. Society has made it difficult to express how one feels because, for many, same sex relationships are a serious no no. Why? Why is it wrong to want what heterosexual couples have in a relationship? Why is it wrong to want love, intimacy, a life partner? Why is it wrong to want to raise a family in a same sex couple? Why in hell are people so intimidated by that? Are they so insecure in their own relationships?
Many people express a "love one another as you want to be loved" attitude until it comes to same sex relationships. Suddenly, they turn like a nest of vipers, striking out at what is perceived as a threat to their way of life. They try to intimidate via religion/faith that homosexuality is against the will of God. If it is wrong then why does God allow homosexuality? Does God allow the birth of human beings that He knows will be homosexual only to turn His back to them? If one is a true follower of Jesus (I am), doesn't one owe it to Him to follow one of his greatest commandments? If people want to use the faith card, they'd best recall that Jesus said we should love one another as we love ourselves.
Seeking love and fulfillment in a relationship should not rely upon having one person of each sex. Love and fulfillment, intimacy, and yes even sex, should be dependent upon being IN love with the one you're with regardless of gender. Life is too precarious to waste it searching for an intimacy that cannot be attained because one is searching in the wrong direction. Love the one you're with. Hopefully that one will be your soulmate, if not at that moment, then after the question "how do I love thee?" is finally answered. Good luck.
~Jane